My daughter reminded me about what my husband used to say to his students about swearing. Anyone can swear. Use real words instead and you’ll be heard. A swear word has multiple meanings. Do you mean, you don’t understand me, it’s too hard, I just messed up, or I can’t figure it out? Expressing what you really mean takes a lot more than just one word and includes choosing the right words. I proofread my blogs many times to make sure they clearly say what I mean, and if not, words are changed before sending them out into the world. Speaking words should take the same amount of thought, but I’ve said things I shouldn’t have, used the wrong words, not said what I really mean, and then they’re out there forever. I can use more words to smooth out the wrong ones, but I can’t take them back. And here’s why a face to face dialog is best. Even when I say what I mean, it doesn’t guarantee the person I’m saying them to won’t misunderstand their meaning. May I never live in a world where a phone takes the place of my face, or my thumbs, my voice.