I think there are two distinct meanings for the word acceptance; one is, here I am right now but here I may not stay, and the other is here I am and here I’ll stay. Both start with acknowledging where I am is where I am, but there’s a huge difference after that. Where I am might be OK, but if it’s not there’s door #1 – once I accept my life as it is, I can move on to changing it. There’s also door #2 – once I accept my life as it is, I choose to stay where I am; give up, give in. Choosing either door means no more complaining because the choice has been made, fully aware that where I am isn’t OK. Choosing to transform my present life will take quite a bit of work and time because change is a process; a process that moves me forward, the only direction there is. By not accepting the life I have now, I’m allowing sadness, anger, and complaints to taunt the possibility of change; (with a sing songy voice) nah, nah nah, nah, nah, you can’t fix me! I can and I will through door #1.